Good timing is everything. When you are having a discussion with your teenager, time your punch lines and playful words carefully. When you learn to balance your timing for positive spins, it will result in a much more enjoyable conversation when attempting to get your point across.
Get your point across without having to resort to emotional outbursts. While your teenager knows how to push your limits, he/she sometimes just can not stop. Emoting only makes matters worse for both of you, leaving little room for open dialogue.
Tell your teenager: “I know that, as a teenager, your only purpose in life is to argue with everything I say, but I am feeling very tired, so forget about your life's purpose for tonight, and get back to it tomorrow."
When you are lecturing your teenager, use a positive spin. Say something along the lines of: “I know you don’t need me to advise you, but if I fail to parent you, I fail at my job. So please sit there and let me do my job."
Get your teen involved in improving your disagreements by asking him/her if he/she can think of a way to turn the discussion into something positive.
Shift your paradigm. Having a teenager includes absurdity and ridiculousness. If you are serious about it, you will not get any fun out of it.